Words cannot express the incredible experience we had facilitating our February Conscious Couples Retreat!
We were humbled by the risk-taking, open heartedness, and deep connections that we had the gift to witness over the course of a week.
There was no acro yoga. No “advanced” asana. The retreat participants with yoga experience were in the minority. We didn’t revive the comedic 2009 movie, Couples Retreat (although we did laugh quite a bit- even during a yoga practice).
Attending was a farmer, a navy seal, small business owners, and healthcare workers. Twenty- somethings and fifty-somethings. Parents of young adults, toddlers, and those who with no children at all. Fiscal and social conservatives left oriented liberals, and self-proclaimed anarchist. All different faiths, cultures, and backgrounds. It was human meets human meets nature. Everyone was stripped of their usual nuances, mechanisms of control, and 24/7 access to tech gadgets, and constrictive ligatures of everyday life.
The beauty of a couples retreat is that there are group classes, meals, and activities that offer connection to other like-minded individuals; however, there is also ample time to unwind and spend quality time on a 1:1 basis in your own sacred space with your loved one. Time to also hone in and reflect on the ((( self ))).
During past trips to the Nicoya Peninsula, we observed many epiphanies, break throughs, and discrete “nirvana moments.” There have also been occasions when visitors experienced a metaphorical unraveling…. gripped by raw emotion and upheaval. Instead of inviting in fear, anxiety, or apprehension, know innately that this upheaval is a signal. The beauty of spiritual transformation is on its way to you.
On our last trip, an interesting discussion transpired with an energy healer in Montezuma who was elaborating on the pyramidal structure of the peninsula and how this serves to create a powerful energy vortex. Whether you buy into this new age notion or not, the influential properties of this area are evident to even the most stringent of skeptics.
Every great change is preceded by chaos – Deepak Chopra
What arises (good and bad chaos) during this time period is not created by the immersion in jungle ecology. It did not spontaneously erupt from the chatter of monkey mantra or fall from the branch of a banyan tree. It was pre-existing, cycling, and stagnating in dormancy . Perhaps displaced, repurposed, or ignored…. or one of the other fancy defense mechanisms that our brain loves to enact for its own short-term benefit. Nature provides us with the space, time, stillness, and illumination to fully process what we have been carrying, withholding, and taxing our subconscious with for a very long time. We are primed with benevolence and courage to release and let go.
The Vedic tradition also emphasizes the importance of seeking refuge in the concept of detachment in order to develop prolific spiritual awareness. This detachment based spiritual insight is a type of magic that not even the most skillful of therapists can conjure. And the best thing of all is that the process is involuntary. It happens on its own and all one has to do is simply allow! Sometimes the impact is subtle and other times the impact is tremendous. But always for our greater good.
Incorporating practices of yoga, Ayurveda, clean-eating, conscious communication, meditation, and the natural medicine of the surrounding sunshine, plant life, oxygen, waterfalls, and oceanic ions serve to amplify and accelerate this healing process.
“Love is at the heart of the world, just as it is at the heart of your life. Your relationships with your lover, your family, your friends, and the world around you define the quality of your emotional wholeness and reflect your relationship with yourself.” – Sebastian Pole
Holistic retreats help us to appreciate ourselves more and refill our invaluable Rx for self-love. This love serves to emit waves of compassion to those around us, especially our loved ones and significant others. Interpersonal connection to others that is typically distal turns proximal…essential rather than optional. If two in a partnership are equally invested in this process, the rewards are endless.
Typical vacations usually involve being over-active and bustling around from one sight seeing location to the next. One is also extremely sedentary, eating heavy, prana deficient meals and chain drinking fancy frozen drinks garnished with paper umbrellas and faux neon red cherries. These taste delicious, but leave us feeling sluggish and imbalanced. We almost need a “vacation from our vacation” when we return. Vacationing is generally about escape. Getting away from it all, finding fun distractions, and forgetting about one’s troubles. Retreat is about arrival. Arriving back in a state of balance through the process of connecting with our innermost radiant and authentic being. During a retreat, the schedule, meals, activities, and yoga are pre-planned. So there is nothing for participants to do other than to just BE. Be still, be playful, be free, be connected, be healthy, be receptive, be loving, be happy, be at peace.
Most people already know that around 50 percent of marriages in the United States and other developed countries end in divorce. The break up rates for short and long term relationships are much higher. If someone informed you that your chance of acquiring an acute life threatening disease was at least 1 in 2….I am certain that you would seek immediate medical consultation and execute preventative wellness strategies.
Couples retreats ARE that preventative wellness strategy. They are a gift that helps to keep the energy channels free and clear within your dynamic multifaceted partnership. Marriage is hard work- even within the most committed and compatible partnership. Life happens. Although beautiful beyond measure, it is sometimes unforgiving, disruptive, and can shake the breath from one’s body and cut through one’s heart. Ongoing dedicated efforts and investment in maintaining a strong foundation is not optional to grow a relationship that both survives and thrives! When an individual or couple is vibrating a higher energetic frequency with an open heart and open mind then a very special type of attunement can occur. The result is profound evolution and a more trusting, soulful, and unified connection.
Our next Costa Rica partner retreat will be booking for February 2019 !!! It seems like a long time away….but 1.5 years is a nice time to organize, save, and set YOUR intention for a meaningful life experience that will continue to give long after it ends. Pura Vida!